Why newlyweds fight

And third, always, always communicate: Create a plan that lets you both feel comfortable with how you deal with these issues. This could be domestic decisions like how to share closet space ahem, household clutter, anyone?

But it could also expand to dealing with visiting family members or how often you spend time with each other's friends. Greer's observations seem to lead to the idea that there isn't one most common fight—instead, there's a most common cause behind all of these potential fights about totally different, little things, depending on what irks you. Everything that was once a personal choice now suddenly has to be a mutual decision with involvement and accountability," Greer says.

Early marriage arguments stem from wanting to continue your own creature comforts, but having to learn how to balance them with your partner's. Similar to Bartell, Greer is all about encouraging both people to develop strong problem-solving and compromising skills.

By the way, these are all key relationship skills you can strengthen in marriage counseling —an amazing resource for even the happiest couples. The trick is accepting it's a give and take, and building that trust you need to be able to talk through differences and come to a mutual solution. If you're looking for more ways to improve your communication and build a healthier relationship, check out Lasting.

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Main Menu. Sign Up. Back to Main Menu. Planning Tools. Wedding Vision. Discover Your Vision. Take The Knot's Style Quiz. Reception Venues. Wedding Photographers. Bridal Salons. Wedding Planners. Wedding Cakes. Is there enough representation of both of you in the space? Money is a notoriously thorny subject for couples — especially for newlyweds who may just be starting to combine finances, looking to buy a home or thinking about starting a family. News U.

Politics Joe Biden Congress Extremism. Special Projects Highline. HuffPost Personal Video Horoscopes. Follow Us. You're not alone. Although it's common to experience a honeymoon phrase during those first few weeks of marriage, experts agree that the first days as husband and wife are often the hardest. With that said, fighting now doesn't bode badly for the rest of your years.

Crystal Bradshaw, LPC , a psychotherapist specializing in relationships, says that disagreements during the first year of marriage -especially during the first six months-is a rite of passage for every couple, even the happiest ones. Your spouse knows how you take your coffee and that rubbing your head helps you fall asleep.

But as much as they try to be tuned-in to your thoughts, feelings and emotions, therapist Meygan Caston explains they're not-in fact-mind readers. This type of disagreement usually stems from a lack of communication , where you expected your partner to anticipate what you wanted instead of expressing your needs. We often have unrealistic and unmet expectations that leave us disappointed and frustrated because we didn't communicate them," she says. Though it might not feel like the most romantic of rituals, Caston suggests setting a weekly "marriage business meeting" where you touch base on everything.

Financial disagreements are bound to happen till the two of you learn to manage your expenses. Newly wed couples tend to hide a lot of their feelings for the sake of love and also to avoid fights.

However, what happens in this case is that your partner will end up assuming things about you and there will be a miscommunication. And gradually, it will turn into arguments. These are some of the most common arguments that every newly-wed couple goes through. And now that you know almost every couple faces this, it is all normal and okay. Such arguments in fact will help you understand your partner better and your relationship will just evolve.

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