Should i remind my boyfriend of my birthday

James Preece , dating coach and relationship expert. This article was originally published on Updated: May 20, Originally Published: July 16, Search Close. I won't be pissed about it, but maybe a little sad. Original poster's comments 7. Maybe he has a surprise. Or maybe he's an asshole.

See all replies 1. I'd say something now like, "oh man I'm so excited to see what my other boyfriend got me for my birthday! Oh you meant the boyfriend thing I'd probably remind him. Then you won't have to be sad. I would passively mention it. Like, I can't decide what cake to get for my birthday tomorrow. Or I'm gonna treat myself with blank because it's my birthday tomorrow. Are you familiar with their problems, and have they thoroughly explained them to you and apologized?

Or did they try to fob you off with something like the aforementioned short sentences? If they truly have an excuse, they should explain it to you. They just act passive-aggressive with no explanation. This is the wrong approach that sounds a lot like an unhealthy relationship. Some would advise you to just go out and celebrate it without them, without ever letting them know about it. But this is simply not a healthy way to deal with problems in a serious relationship between two mature individuals.

But make them realize what they forgot. Yes, you might not wish to speak to them for a while because of the hurt you feel, but not before you express your feelings. When you bottle up your feelings, they tend to explode at a later point in time, and no one wants that. The most important thing now is their reaction when you let them know what they did and how bad it is.

People can forget important things and be forgiven for it, but only if they realize what they did, apologize for it, and make it up to you. Actions speak louder than words, and you need to remember that. Change in behavior is the only real apology, so your partner should promise to make it up to you and make you feel special again. Your partner ruined a very important day for you, so they should promise to make it up to you by doing everything that they should have done on your birthday.

Ideally, they will celebrate your birthday the next day. However, if this is not an option, doing something nice for you could suffice for now. So, while your partner might be a great sweet talker and apologize and promise to make it up to you, you should see if they actually keep that promise. They might just be trying to get you to cut them some slack and forget about the whole thing by making promises and apologizing.

Your partner should do something romantic and nice for you to make up for forgetting your birthday. Your partner should keep putting in the effort to make it up to you for more than just a day or two. They might have had bad birthdays in the past, and now they prefer to not even notice the date when it comes.

If your partner forgets their own birthday, it might be the reason they forgot about yours. Birthdays might be a touchy subject for them, and they might not even be aware of it. If they otherwise make you happy but ruin your birthdays, it might not have anything to do with their feelings for you.

You should try talking to them about this and getting them to open up to you to let you know why they hate birthdays. Be aware that this is probably not something that you can resolve on your own, but a therapist might help your partner come to terms with their past experiences and celebrate birthdays again.